Black Women Need to Be DOWN According to Slim Thug

As I stumble across my Internet "news" spots, I come across a blog referencing a response issued to rapper Slim Thug. Apparently Slim Thug was trying to explain his take on Black relationships. Unfortunately he didn't do a good job. In the end he offended people, namely Black people because his comments shed another negative spotlight onto the Black community. During Slim Thug's interview he said the following:

It’s hard to trust a Black woman [sometimes] because a lot of Black women’s mind frame is that the man gotta do everything for her⎯ he gotta pay for this, he gotta pay for that, and if it ain’t about money then a lot of them ain’t fucking with him.

Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct.

White women treat they man like a king and Black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that shit. Black women need to stand by their man more.

Slim Thug Interview

Of course these are only snippets of what he said but Damn, these are some all around IGNORANT ass statements. Is this how he feels about his mom, aunts, sisters, or his potential daughters? C’mon man you have to do better. What he articulated was trash. How can you say that Black women expect men to do everything for them? I know a few sistahs who are pretty damn self-sufficient. Maybe he just looks or attracts sorry ass women. Furthermore, that’s like saying all Black people are lazy and ignorant. You can’t generalize the statement to everyone.

He then goes on to say the SUCCESSFUL BLACK MEN ARE EXTINCT. Really? If that’s the case I should quit while I am ahead. What’s the point of aiming to be successful if you’re telling me I have no chance at finding a counterpart? Let’s be serious here Slim Thug, what do you consider President Obama, Will Smith, Nelson Mandela, Rev Run, Bill Cosby . . .I could keep going. Hell, do you consider yourself to be successful? I think everyone should have some type of standards. But I will borrow a line from Lyfe Jennings, “Don’t be a nickel looking for a Dime”. As long as a person is looking for their equal (or slight improve), what’s the problem?

To echo that thought, an alum of mine said, "If you don't treat me like a QUEEN ya gonna be a LONELY KING" -Ayanna McNeil. Hell, a relationship should be FiFtY F’n FiFtY. So the little bit about White women . . .SMH.

You say White women treat Black men like Kings because they’re subservient? Is that all a black man wants? Well shit, get a dog. Black women have been standing by their men for a long as time. Do you need us to hold your manhood while you relieve yourself too? In the worst case scenario, when Black man feels too overwhelmed to care for his seed guess who picks up the slack . . .Black woman. When Black man complains about how the “man” is holding him back guess who is listening and sympathizing . . . Black woman. And when Black man said he wanted to revolutionize how his Black community was portrayed, Black woman was there too. But I guess you missed that memo because clearly you think us as a people ain’t shit. Damn. That’s low man. Just know that most black women are not subservient we're just too damn strong. And I'm pretty damn proud of that becuase it means my ancestors were resilient people.

As expected, these ill knowledge comments met criticism. It happened to be from a Black, male professor teaching at Columbia University. There’s nothing like a Black man that is intelligent/educated and sexy . . . quite elusive, but great to come across.

Here's where Mr. Intelligent & Sexy, Marc Lamont Hill responds:

Even more disturbing was your comment that "Black women gotta start being down for their man more." Since slavery, Black women have had to withstand rape, torture, and humiliation (from both white and black men) in order to sustain their families. Now, in 2010, 1 in 3 Black men between 20 and 29 years old are incarcerated or otherwise under criminal supervision. Every day, Black women are raising children without men in the house, working multiple jobs (for less pay!), and supporting brothers as they finish their prison bids.

Mr. Marc Lamont Hill's Response to Slim Thug

I would go on cosigning Mr. Marc Lamont Hill but he provides an argument which stands for itself. So I encourage you to read and develop your own ideas. I’m sure they will be much classier than Slim Thugs’.

Damaged Goods

I routinely have conversations with my “sisters” about the ideas which cross my mind. One reoccurring idea happens to be about my past and current romantic life. Tsk tsk tsk. Mistakes have surely been made. When I look back at some of the males (I refuse to call all of them men) that I dealt with, I have to ask myself “REALLY?” Like why the hell did I even entertain those situations? Now that I have time to think clearly about everything that has occurred in my life (thus far), I can’t help to think about how I was so wrong for repeatedly dealing with “damaged goods”.

When I refer to “Damaged Goods”… I mean damaged people. These are people who have or had way too much baggage in their life and they’re unknowing or unwilling to use it as a stepping stone to better themselves.

In example, someone might say I’m damaged goods. My past has led me to have abandonment issues (these scares were created many years ago). I know it and have accepted it. Presently I stay involved (study groups, classes, community service, working, social groups, group outings, etc.) so that I don’t have to feel alone. In the future, I know that I will remain an active part in my children’s lives so that I won’t be the cause of any abandonment scares. Actively participating in their lives will be a requirement, not a choice. <- This will be a story for a much later time. But I digress . . .

I have had my share of relationships/acquaintances and most of them have been damaged in one way or another. Damn. I need to get my life together if damaged goods are the only men I attract and entertain.

• Guy 1: Parents not in the picture. He was living with extended family. To maintain his housing he had to care for his younger cousins. He took on the role of father when the cousins’ biological was not around. Since he was around children most of the time . . . he thought it best to treat me the same (AKA SEVERE DADDY SYNDROME). Granted I was much younger than him, he still had no business telling me what I could and could not do or who I could associate with.

• Guy 2 : Orphaned, Emancipated, and learned to be self-sufficient at a young age (AKA as Mr. I DON’T NEED ANY DAMN BODY). He felt he knew best about everything because he had known “what was best” for himself for so many years. I met him as a grown man but he didn’t always act that way. Intellectually we were compatible but that was it. He probably was pushing Wilt Chamberlain numbers. SMH. Cheating on me, she, them, and every girl in his path. In his mind no girl was going to bow down to him so he rather exploit them until he was done. I guess nobody taught him how to be there for someone.

• Guy 3: He’s an overall good person. But he was misguided by his family. (Instead of a monkey, he had his FAMILY ON HIS BACK). We clicked except for his viewpoints on important things. When I gauzed towards the future, I established a blueprint as to how I would arrive there. He lived for the right now. I guess his family didn’t stress the importance of what could be if you worked hard enough. Instead, live for the moment and if times get hard . . . put your hand out and look for help. I have no problem with helping. But I refuse to let someone else take the food out my future children’s mouths. Every time he tries to get ahead, he’s pulled back. When he needed help it was hard to find his family’s helping hand. On top of that, they were the family that felt the need to be in OUR relationship. I couldn't have that.

So now I need to find out how to attract pristine goods. A pristine specimen of a man would have his shit together. This would include goals and priorities, a career (not a job), values and morals, capital (because we can’t share mine 100% of the time), ambition, humor, intellect, and good arms to hold on to me with. But with that said, I have no idea as to find this man. Furthermore, when I find him I can’t be sure that he’ll notice me. So how do I approach him?
Well, at the moment it doesn’t matter. There are so many other things I have to accomplish before finding said man. Hell, I have to be ready in my own life to accept him.